What the fuck? That’s that bullshit I’m talking about RIGHT HERE! This is why I don’t support the SlutWalk, among other reasons.
And look at all them honkies standing around her, probably the same people who whine on Tumblr about how they are “good allies” and we are “alienating” them - but they can’t be bothered to put a stop to this shit when it’s right in front of them.
The fact that no one chin checked her (and before some gives me that BS about it being a song title I know that & it is still offensive as fuck to actual women likely to be called nigger), says a whole lot about the racism inherent in white middle class feminism.
Fuck slut walk official talk
HOLYFUCK. Why is she smiling instead of having a broken nose? Anyone I know would’ve promptly told her where to shove that sign.
TW for racist slur being used by a white woman!
OH FUCK NO. FUCK NO. Why hasn’t anyone confronted her about this?!
If I were there, I’d have slapped that sign out of her hands and given her the riot-act-reading of her life… since apparently, no one’s told her that shit like this is UNACCEPTABLE. (Although, if I had to guess from the self-pleased look on her face, I’d say she knows full well what it means, and is either a dyed-in-the-wool racist or some asshole trying to be ‘ironic’.) And then I’d tear the sign up for good measure.
because one woman = the entire slutwalk
Still though. Ugh. That’s not okay.
WTF? This isn’t “one woman”. This is a whole fucking crowd of white women who are complicit in her act. EVERY PERSON who saw that sign and didn’t take it from her hands to destroy it and read her up and down for it, is just as guilty as she is. And yes, this is pretty COMMON and an ongoing theme at SlutWalk. Does that mean ALL SlutWalks are the problem? No. I previously wrote about how it went in my city, and I can tell you, that kind of a sign would never fly here. But it is emblematic of the entire movement. This is not the first fuck up, it won’t be the last, and yet how many people will be busy rolling their eyes and saying “it’s just one woman” instead of making sure this shit doesn’t happen AT ALL in their city? Isn’t “one woman” enough? Oh, except it’s NOT ONE WOMAN. WHO THE FUCK DO YOU THINK ALL THOSE OTHER PEOPLE ARE?
Yeah, you can’t reduce racism to individual acts of shittiness, no matter how hard you try. Racism is a system-wide imbalance of power. The fact that Yoko Ono felt comfortable saying that, the fact that John Lennon felt comfortable writing that song, the fact that this woman felt just fine with making that sign, the fact that everyone around her felt just fine with her holding up that sign, the fact that someone on tumblr felt the need to excuse it away all speak to the systemic nature of racism.
People think they exist in a fucking vacuum rather than a society.
Oh can it. This is not ” problematic” it I’d and ALWAYS HAS BEEN an aggressive cooption that erases black women do some jack ass can feel like there is a language for her oppression.
And if that entire walk can’t act by making them take it DOWN , I ‘m supposed to feel safe knowing by brown body is a target.
Thank you colorlines, cause I kept seeing everyone blog the pics of her new photoshoot and couldn’t stop giving all of tumblr the side-eye.
My mom bleached her skin for a lot of my young life. I believe my sister did. Am I going to call my sister up and tell her she’s a bad black woman? No. She’s grown and adults have the free will to do what they please with their bodies. But that doesn’t mean we need to glorify the practice of making your skin as light as possible so people either permanently damage their skin with chemicals (like my mom) or grow up wishing they were lighter and hiding from the sun (like me and countless young girls who grow hate themselves all over the world).
The blonde wig may be throwing us off, but Rihanna is on the cover of British Vogue’s November 2011 issue and she’s looking much lighter.
It could be the actual lighting on set, it could be that we’ve gotten used to her wearing a fire engine-red wig, or it could be that someone forget to tell Vogue’s retoucher that Rihanna is in fact black.
What do think? Chime in the comments and help us figure it out.
Skin lightening in beauty magazines is an all too common practice. At this point it’s just a question of how severely a person will be lightened. ELLE did it to the most beautiful woman in the world most recently, they’ve transformed Gabourey Sidibe into a much lighter cover girl. L’Oreal whitewashed Beyonce, too.
There’s a thriving skin lightening beauty industry too and that one can be dangerous. In 2003, Dr. S. Allen Counter, a professor of neurophysiology and neurology at Harvard Medical School questioned why it was mostly women who were dealing with increased rates of mercury poisoning in places like Mexico, Saudi Arabia, Pakistan and even in the Southwestern United States
In every case, clinical questioning revealed that the women had used skin-whitening creams — many for years. In other words, these women had tried so desperately to whiten their skin color that they had poisoned their bodies by applying mercury-based “beauty creams.”
Ninety percent of the women entering border clinics in Arizona with mercury poisoning were Mexican-American, and they like their Mexican counterparts had been using skin-whitening creams such as “Crema de Belleza-Manning,” which is manufactured in Mexico. These skin-whitening creams contain mercurous chloride, which is readily absorbed through the skin. Saudi, African, and Asian women were also using these skin-bleaching chemicals in a tragic attempt to change their appearance to that of white women.
Hugo Schwyzer (via sweetcakes-and-milkshakes)
When men follow a narrative that proudly proclaim that men cannot be trusted to exert self control in the presence of women,they degrade themselves.
Preach. Apart from that I don’t feel as though any of those things can actually be ticked off of that list.
None of those things can be checked off. And yes, it’s a damn shame.
Cosigned. Tired. Epically tired.
I also dislike this child/woman. Her songs are syrupy crap full of patriarchal bullshit. Also she should thank Kanye West for giving her the biggest boost In the world.
1. My odds of being hired for a job, when competing against female applicants, are probably skewed in my favor. The more prestigious the job, the larger the odds are skewed.
2. I can be confident that my co-workers won’t think I got my job because of my sex – even though that might be true. (More).
3. If I am never promoted, it’s not because of my sex.
4. If I fail in my job or career, I can feel sure this won’t be seen as a black mark against my entire sex’s capabilities.
5. I am far less likely to face sexual harassment at work than my female co-workers are. (More).
6. If I do the same task as a woman, and if the measurement is at all subjective, chances are people will think I did a better job.
7. If I’m a teen or adult, and if I can stay out of prison, my odds of being raped are relatively low. (More).
8. On average, I am taught to fear walking alone after dark in average public spaces much less than my female counterparts are.
9. If I choose not to have children, my masculinity will not be called into question.
10. If I have children but do not provide primary care for them, my masculinity will not be called into question.
11. If I have children and provide primary care for them, I’ll be praised for extraordinary parenting if I’m even marginally competent. (More).
12. If I have children and a career, no one will think I’m selfish for not staying at home.
13. If I seek political office, my relationship with my children, or who I hire to take care of them, will probably not be scrutinized by the press.
14. My elected representatives are mostly people of my own sex. The more prestigious and powerful the elected position, the more this is true.
15. When I ask to see “the person in charge,” odds are I will face a person of my own sex. The higher-up in the organization the person is, the surer I can be.
16. As a child, chances are I was encouraged to be more active and outgoing than my sisters. (More).
17. As a child, I could choose from an almost infinite variety of children’s media featuring positive, active, non-stereotyped heroes of my own sex. I never had to look for it; male protagonists were (and are) the default.
18. As a child, chances are I got more teacher attention than girls who raised their hands just as often. (More).
19. If my day, week or year is going badly, I need not ask of each negative episode or situation whether or not it has sexist overtones.
20. I can turn on the television or glance at the front page of the newspaper and see people of my own sex widely represented.
21. If I’m careless with my financial affairs it won’t be attributed to my sex.
22. If I’m careless with my driving it won’t be attributed to my sex.
23. I can speak in public to a large group without putting my sex on trial.
24. Even if I sleep with a lot of women, there is no chance that I will be seriously labeled a “slut,” nor is there any male counterpart to “slut-bashing.” (More).
25. I do not have to worry about the message my wardrobe sends about my sexual availability. (More).
26. My clothing is typically less expensive and better-constructed than women’s clothing for the same social status. While I have fewer options, my clothes will probably fit better than a woman’s without tailoring. (More).
27. The grooming regimen expected of me is relatively cheap and consumes little time. (More).
28. If I buy a new car, chances are I’ll be offered a better price than a woman buying the same car. (More).
29. If I’m not conventionally attractive, the disadvantages are relatively small and easy to ignore.
30. I can be loud with no fear of being called a shrew. I can be aggressive with no fear of being called a bitch.
31. I can ask for legal protection from violence that happens mostly to men without being seen as a selfish special interest, since that kind of violence is called “crime” and is a general social concern. (Violence that happens mostly to women is usually called “domestic violence” or “acquaintance rape,” and is seen as a special interest issue.)
32. I can be confident that the ordinary language of day-to-day existence will always include my sex. “All men are created equal,” mailman, chairman, freshman, he.
33. My ability to make important decisions and my capability in general will never be questioned depending on what time of the month it is.
34. I will never be expected to change my name upon marriage or questioned if I don’t change my name.
35. The decision to hire me will not be based on assumptions about whether or not I might choose to have a family sometime soon.
36. Every major religion in the world is led primarily by people of my own sex. Even God, in most major religions, is pictured as male.
37. Most major religions argue that I should be the head of my household, while my wife and children should be subservient to me.
38. If I have a wife or live-in girlfriend, chances are we’ll divide up household chores so that she does most of the labor, and in particular the most repetitive and unrewarding tasks. (More).
39. If I have children with my girlfriend or wife, I can expect her to do most of the basic childcare such as changing diapers and feeding.
40. If I have children with my wife or girlfriend, and it turns out that one of us needs to make career sacrifices to raise the kids, chances are we’ll both assume the career sacrificed should be hers.
41. Assuming I am heterosexual, magazines, billboards, television, movies, pornography, and virtually all of media is filled with images of scantily-clad women intended to appeal to me sexually. Such images of men exist, but are rarer.
42. In general, I am under much less pressure to be thin than my female counterparts are. (More). If I am fat, I probably suffer fewer social and economic consequences for being fat than fat women do. (More).
43. If I am heterosexual, it’s incredibly unlikely that I’ll ever be beaten up by a spouse or lover. (More).
45. Sexual harassment on the street virtually never happens to me. I do not need to plot my movements through public space in order to avoid being sexually harassed, or to mitigate sexual harassment. (More.)
45. On average, I am not interrupted by women as often as women are interrupted by men.
46. I have the privilege of being unaware of my male privilege.
I think it’s weird when guys don’t want to have period sex (just to clarify, ‘period sex’ is when you have sex while a girl is ‘menstruating’ or ‘bleeding out of her vagina,’ in case you were wondering). Listen: I don’t think you should have to eat pussy when it’s leaking the red stuff, I don’t even think it’s necessary that you touch it with your hand (if you’re the queasy type it’s probably better if you don’t) but there are reasons why period sex is much less disgusting than you think.
See, I imagine the taste of blood isn’t so nice when it’s coming out of someone else’s genitals (even if you were the sort of kid that would graze themselves and then suck on the wound), hence why I can forgive a man for not wanting to go down on me while Aunty Flo’s in town. And I’m guessing any sort of digital action would probably lead to dirty sheets as his hands crept elsewhere in moments of passion, so I can sort of (only just) forgive him for not wanting to finger me when I’m on the rag. But sex? When your penis is covered in latex and you don’t have to taste it, look at it or touch it, no apologies, I don’t understand what the problem is.
The good news is, I’m pretty sure we’re all having period sex anyway.
I have met a grand total of one dude in my entire life who was like “no” on the period sex (for the record, he wasn’t saying no in the moment; it was a general conversation, not a negotiation). His reasoning was “it’s gross.” And when I stopped seeing him approximately 24 hours after that conversation, my reasoning was, “I don’t want to be with someone who thinks that a natural, healthy uterus-having body is gross.” Do you have a right to refuse to have period sex because you think bleeding vaginas be nasty? Of course. And do I have a right to leave your ass and think less of you because of that? You betcha. Because it does come down to misogyny, basically — most pre-menopausal people with uteruses and vaginas who are old enough to consent to sex bleed once a month. Vaginas do not exist as sterile, liquid-free penis receptacles (although I hear there’s a toy for that). Lots of healthy vaginas expel blood. And if you think that’s gross, well, maybe spend your naked extracurricular time with someone who is vagina-free (exception to the “you’re kind of a dick if you think periods are disgusting” rule: People who are universally freaked out by any kind of blood and just can’t handle the sight of it).
Basically, dudes who have sex with women and think period sex is disgusting are the brothers-in-badnews-sexytime with people who think oral sex is gross. Don’t like normally-functioning vaginas? Then you should be disallowed from fucking them.
I’ve had numerous conversations with one particular guy-friend about how he thinks vaginas (and pubes) are just sooooo icky and wants to vomit when his girlfriend mentions her period. Yes, he has a girlfriend that he frequently sees naked and he still says this shit. Grow the fuck up. Your penis isn’t exactly the mecca of hygiene.
pretty much. if you can handle menstruation, you have no business being with a woman. :|
Ha, I wish…. I had one guy who begged me to do facesitting while I was running the red carpet… I respectfully declined… Now every single guy couldn’t be bribed to touch me.
|—||Amanda Marcotte response to Lisa Belkin’s article on social inequalities between men and women on college campuses. (via feministslut)|